DAY 10: We are Made for Relationships

by Dr Trafford Fischer, Discipleship Ministries – Family, Seventh-day Adventist Church, South Pacific Division

Human connections are vital for our emotional, physical and spiritual well-being.

“A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.
God sets the lonely in families . . .”
(Psalm 68:5-6a NIV)

At the end of the creation event as recorded in Scripture, God brings His creative acts to a conclusion when He moulds man from the dust, and then declares His work “very good” (Genesis 1:31). But then He surprises us: while Adam is in the presence of his Creator, God informs him that it’s not good that he should be alone (see Genesis 2:18). Even in the company of God, man needed another human connection — another human being that could bring mutual joy and deep intimacy. God clearly intended that His created beings should always be in connection with others — to never live a solitary life.

God didn’t intend that the human heart be broken by loneliness – He made Eve to be with Adam. A human connection was the antidote for loneliness and the means to build love and intimacy.

Research in the social sciences continues to demonstrate just how essential relationships are for our well-being. The quality of our mental and physical health are dependent on our intimate relationships with others. Without relationships we wither and die, both emotionally and physically. Recent discoveries point to the fact that loneliness and isolation can impact our health to the same degree as smoking fifteen cigarettes a day and can literally ‘break our hearts.’ The quality of our life diminishes when there is no one to share it with – family, friends, or spouse.

This sense of loneliness seems to be on the increase. There is growing evidence that we are becoming more and more isolated. Those much-desired close relationships our hearts long for aren’t finding their fulfilment in this digital age where we have never been so ‘connected.’ No matter how many Facebook friends we might have, we still long for a genuine human connection. We long to know we are loved and can love in return. We long to see, to touch, to hug, to hold, and no amount of plastic or glass in the shape of a mobile phone can ever provide that experience.

Our text suggests that God designed the family as the antidote to loneliness. God sets the lonely in families. It’s in family that we are to find comfort and healing, renewal and strength. It’s in our families where we are to find a sense of belonging, an identity, and a sense that we are someone of value and worth. It’s in family that we are regularly reminded that we are not alone.

Jesus invites us to be constantly aware of the significance of our families and the role they play in keeping us whole and healthy. Jesus invites us to be ‘alive’ to the needs we all share for love and acceptance, support and nurture, and human connection. Jesus wants us to awaken to just how much we need our families, and how much they need us. Jesus wants us to awaken to His vision of having a community and a nation of healthy, loving families.

God of all wonder, we express our gratitude and praise to You for our families. You have made us for relationships – never to be alone. Grant us Your wisdom and grace as we journey as families in your world. May our families continually be shaped by the love of Your Son and the Presence of Your Spirit. Awaken us to Your call to be a strong, God-loving family that can demonstrate to the world just how much you desire a connection with every human heart. AMEN.

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About the Author:

Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison Marsh since 1975 and they have five children and nine grandchildren; he and his wife live in Wollongong in NSW, Australia. He is a family & faith advocate, social reformer, musician, TV producer, writer and public speaker. Warwick is a leader in the Men’s and Family Movement, and he is well known in Australia for his advocacy for children, marriage, manhood, family, fatherhood and faith. Warwick is passionate to encourage men to be great fathers and to know the greatest Father of all, the Father in whom “there is no shadow of turning.” He also blogs at Just a Man.

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  1. agnes October 10, 2018 at 12:29 pm - Reply

    Good morning everyone, sisters and brothers in the lord, I love you all in the name of our lord Jesus Christ. I just want to encourage us as we go through the month of fasting and prayer, just to add on the reading of today or prayer item, I would like to say even though it talks about Loneliness as in being physically away from others, I would like to suggest that we should also talk about spiritual loneliness where a person is without the the (HELPER) which is the holy spirit that Jesus said he will be always with us. personally I came to this country without family but i have made few friends but sometime having all this people around you if your not being filed with holy spirit where you find that dryness and you think, what is really going on even though i have this friend around? so its really important to a person to have that spiritual connection with the holy spirit who can comfort and strengthen you more and more. as we continue with this fasting , my prayer is that Connection with the holy spirit must be our most needs. I pray amen.

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